The secret to life can be found in the stories we tell

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The secret to life can be found in the stories we tell We all tell stories, just about all the time. Some we regale to earn laughs or smiles. Some we tell to elicit sympathy or to share a heartwarming moment. As a writer, I trade in storytelling. Still, the most dangerous stories I’ve found are the stories we unconsciously tell ourselves. Growing up I moved all the time. I was constantly the new kid on the block (and not in a boy-band kind of way). At 9, 12, and 17 I found myself trying to fit in again – all three times in different countries and cultures. The story I developed was that it was much easier to be accepted if I didn’t stand out, if I could just be almost invisible, then I’d be accepted.

best dating profiles for men over 50 So I’ve made a life of downplaying my talents, skills, and gifts. The problem is that this attitude has kept me from being happy too. I’ve forced myself into situations that don’t resonate with me.

However, as Dr. Seuss once said, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”

The past 12 months have been about waking up to my unconscious stories. The stories that have kept me in an uncomfortably small space.

So what are the stories you tell yourself to keep your ego safe? Are they based on erroneous assumptions you made as a child? These are the most insidious stories because we have so much practice telling them, it’s hard to see that they don’t serve us anymore and actually are no longer even true. Most often it’s the story behind the story behind the story that needs editing.

If this sounds painfully true to you, let’s talk. Make an appointment – the first one is free – and let’s see if we can edit the stories into a better, more heroic story. One that’s worthy of you.

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This photograph was taken of the Marvel Graphic Novel “Deadpool Kills The Marvel Universe” by Cullen Bunn and Dalibor Talajic.