learn this here now When I sat down to write this blog, I wanted to share a story. But it turned into something more. Kind of like most adventures do when you let inspiration lead the way. So now the purpose of this story is two-fold. I would love to help you identify when you have believed somebody else’s bull crap, and I want to help us all be aware of the power of what we remember.
free german dating apps Earlier this year, one client told a story that stuck with me. I asked permission to share it since it resonates with me and I believe others because it has happened to all of us to some degree. I’ve changed the details to maintain my client’s privacy.
Bonuses Students in the liberal arts, especially creative and artistic fields such as writing, music, filmmaking, sculpture, photography, and painting often have to endure the class critique. This is where you show off your best work or sometimes work that’s challenging you in order to get feedback. On a good day, it’s rough on most creative types – kind of like falling off your bike going downhill. On a bad day, you want to quit, devour two boxes of Girl Scout cookies, and wash it all down with some scotch (or cheap bourbon, depending on your level of starving artist). I’ve been slaughtered in several and I’ve rarely enjoyed any of them.
My client was a student in an elite program during her twenties. For months she did little but focus on her craft, working every aspect. She poured her heart and soul into each piece, and it showed (she shared some of her work with me). There was emotional depth as well as technical mastery to her work. The professors in charge of the program deemed it to be one of two the best in the class and announced to the program that she and one other student had earned top honors as well as a rare opportunity.
She was elated. Until she overheard her classmates.
Her classmates thought her work was mediocre, and they couldn’t understand why one of the more popular students didn’t win. They hinted that she must have traded favors for such an accolade. They cast aspersions on her integrity, virtue, and her honor.
This would be tough to handle at 50, so imagine how it would affect you in your twenties.
So she has spent the last few years hiding her immense talents (she has more than one). She has worked a series of jobs that barely support her, doing things she doesn’t love at all. And I can totally relate. I see a lot of me in this story, even though my own version is quite different.
The common theme? It’s much easier to fit in if we’re just average. When we’re exceptional, when we’re standing in our brilliance, we become a target. As Albert Einstein once said, “Great spirits have always encountered opposition from mediocre minds.” So when one of us stands in our power we either inspire others to stand in theirs, or we incur their wrath and ridicule.
My client’s talent clearly upset the socially established hierarchy of the program. This then made everybody question their judgement, and rather than deal with that, they attacked the person who upset their world. They didn’t know or care that by bullying her they shut her down and postponed the sharing of her gifts. They didn’t know (and might not have cared) who she might have inspired, who she might have touched, the life she might have led.
The thing is, they did said those things a couple of years ago. She’s been reliving it since then, hearing their voices bullying her. Unfortunately now it’s her ego that’s bullying her, but it’s doing so to keep her safe (it thinks). Her ego doesn’t want her to open herself to those attacks again. It knows that when you step into your power, into your greatness, you’re going to encounter opposition. Sometimes violent opposition.
The second half of Einstein’s quote says, “The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man (or woman) who refuses to bow blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his (or her) opinions courageously and honestly.”
Those mediocre minds we encounter aren’t just people who don’t understand us. Often the mediocre mind offering the most violent opposition is our own subconscious mind, our ego, trying to keep us safe. Mediocre loves safe. Bold and daring may offer big rewards, but it’s also risky. And our egos hate upsetting its perceived social order. Just like the students in that classroom.
Our egos want us to fit in. Our spirits want us to soar. The question today is, who do you want to listen to? Do you want to pay attention to the voice that keeps you small and “safe” or the voice that wants you to thrive and create? Chances are, you already know how the let’s stay safe voice sounds. Try the other one. Tell yourself it’s okay to risk it all, to soar with the eagles. Then let me know how that feels.
If this sounds painfully true to you, let’s talk. Make an appointment – the first one is free – and let’s see if we can edit the stories into a bigger, bolder, and better story. One that’s worthy of you.
This photograph was taken of the Marvel Graphic Novel “Guardians of the Galaxy: Cosmic Avengers” by Brian Michael Bendis, Steve McNiven, and Sara Pichelli.